Self-sabotage: why you do it and how to stop

For many, avoiding set goals is a common frustration, but what are the reasons for this self-defeating behaviour? Three experts explain the causes and how to break the cycle

Learn how to break the patterns of undermining yourself to reach your goals. Image: Getty

Natalie Gil

You’re hours away from submitting a job application for a position you’re perfectly qualified for. Instead of finalising your CV, you find yourself frantically cleaning the kitchen, scrolling through social media, or convincing yourself you’re simply not right for the role. Sound familiar?

This is self-sabotage in action – the mysterious way we undermine our own goals despite our best intentions. But why do we do it? And more importantly, how can we break free from these self-defeating patterns?